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Romance Spreads
Reading Type: Relationship
Cards: 4
Question or Concern: What to do
to improve my relationship? What is the problem between us?
Deck Used: Universal Waite (illustrated
by Pamela Coleman Smith)
Spread Used: Relationship.
- you
- him
- relationship
- advice
Cards drawn
- 2 of Cups
- Strength
- 2 of Wands
- 10 of Pentacles
Interpretation
The 2 of cups indicates that you are partnered well. The picture
on the card is of two people sharing two cups. This is a card of
partnership, friendship, and love; and indicates that you are well
situated in the present relationship.
His card is Strength. The picture is of a woman
scratching a lion under its chin. She has him on a leash of flowers.
This card refers to inner strength and soft control. The strength
of intelligence rather than brute force. Do you listen to him? Really
listen to what he is saying? Is he a silent type? Often people get
used to each other and don't really listen, but dismiss lightly
what someone has said, not realizing how important it is. He is
not the type to force his way on you. By the same token he will
not allow you to force your way on him. He is the type to go away
quietly rather than making a big dramatic scene and shouting about
what is wrong.
The relationship is described by the 2 of Wands,
dominion. A ruler stands on the rampart of his castle. He has the
world in his hand and looks out over the country he rules. He holds
the staff of dominion in the other hand. The staff of responsibility
is behind him. Is dominion and control an issue for you in your
relationship? Who dominates and who submits? Are you ruling the
relationship and making the decisions? Does he have a voice in these
decisions?
The 4th card is the ten of pentacles, permanence.
I think this card bodes well for your relationship. It is a positive
family and material affluence card. A whole family is pictured.
Dogs at the grandfather's feet. They are well to do.
The recurrence of two 2's indicates accord. This
spread shows a very nice relationship exists. Be happy with what
you have. Is this what you want for the rest of your life?
Reading Type:Romance
Cards: 6
Question or Concern: Is he right for me?
Deck Used: Universal Waite (illustrated
by Pamela Coleman Smith)
Spread Used: What’s Stopping
You
- What’s stopping you physically
- What you can do about it
- What’s stopping you mentally
- What you can do about it
- What’s stopping you spiritually
- What you can do about it
Cards drawn
- King of Swords - ethics
- Queen of Cups, retrograde - blocked spouse
- Ace of Swords - chivalry, new idea
- Knight of Pentacles - caution
- 3 of Cups - joy
- 7 of Swords - theft
Interpretation
Before getting into the cards at all, I think that if you are having
doubts about this man, then they are probably justified.
The juxtaposition of Swords and Cups throughout
this spread is fascinating. Swords relate to intellect and hard
decisions and sorrows. Cups relate to emotions and relationships.
The King and Ace of Swords are side by side, the end and beginning
of that suit. And you have a King and Queen in your physical cards.
Intellect and emotions are definitely at war in your love life.
There’s something you don’t like about
this guy that is stopping you from getting physically any closer
to him. What is it? Is it his ethics or morals? Are your ethics
or morals keeping you aloof from this man? Or are you intellectualizing
some instinctual mistrust you are feeling where he is concerned?
Your powerful intelligence is blocking you in the physical realm.
What you can do about it is stop worrying about attaining this unrealistic
ideal of perfect spouse. When you start a relationship do you immediately
picture him as your husband ten years down the road? This Queen
reversed or retrograde is telling you to slow down on the perfect
spouse thing and just try to establish a solid friendship. This
is what leads up to solid commitment and then marriage. Don’t
get the cart before the horse or you end up moving backwards. There
is a natural progression to relationships and people find out the
hard way that you can’t jump into intimacy before establishing
a solid friendship. It just won’t work. Is this man your friend?
Someone you love just being with, doing things with, confiding in,
etc.? Would he still be your friend if he never became your lover
or husband? The Queen of Cups reversed is advising you to think
in terms of friendship, cooperation, communication, etc.; not only
terms of marriage.
Mentally, what’s blocking you is the Ace
of Swords or some new idea that seems really correct and logical.
It may work for most people (or seem to on the surface) but it’s
not going to work for you. What new idea are you trying out in your
love life? The Knight of Pentacles advises caution. Slow down and
test the waters. Don’t dive right in to anything new.
Spiritually the cards are somewhat odd. The 3
of Cups is a very positive card while the 7 of Swords is somewhat
negative. So let’s look at inner meanings. What’s blocking
you from a satisfying love life, spiritually, is joy. Are you wrapped
up and involved in your spiritual life, or perhaps a group of female
friends so much that you are losing perspective in your romantic
relationships? Is this the source of your Queen of Cups idealism
that you need to give up? Do you want a boyfriend or husband so
that you can show him off to your friends and relatives? I feel
that somehow the 3 energy of this card is blocking you from the
2 energy of a satisfying relationship that you want.There is a third
person (or element) involved when there should be only two.
What you can do about it is the 7 of Swords, or
theft. A young man is stealing away in broad daylight from a fair.
He is holding 5 Swords and looking back over his shoulder as though
he is getting away with something. There are two more Swords standing
upright. Too much for him to carry them all away. Spiritually you
need to get away with something. Steal some time or something for
yourself. Be sneaky and go for something in your spiritual life
that you want and need. This will bring you something that will
eventually lead to satisfaction in your love life.
Summation
There is a lot of movement and energy in these cards and I believe,
in your romantic life. Are you really ready to settle down into
a solid, committed relationship with one person for the rest of
your life? I get the feeling from what you said and from these cards,
that you know what you want, but are afraid that you don’t
deserve it and are therefore settling for less and maybe settling
too soon. I find your spiritual cards highly intriguing and suggest
that you concentrate your work in that area at present.
Standard Disclaimer:
The tarot shows how the future could be based on the present. Your
future is yours to create.
© 2000 Lady Lorelei
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